"Perfection is a toxic desire. We are not supposed to be perfect. The challenge is not to be perfect - it's to be whole."
- Jane Fonda
YOU HOLD YOURSELF TO A SUPER HIGH STANDARD.
You are your own worst critic, and you are almost always comparing yourself to others. It feels very important to you that others think well of you and think that you're a good person with good intentions. You feel a need to show the world that you are strong, capable, and don't need anyone's help
You also have a tendency to hold others to impossibly high standards, and feel frustrated when mistakes are made. Often, you'd rather just do things yourself than trust someone else to take care of it.
You crave approval, and often live your life so focused on making others comfortable and not screwing shit up that you forgo your own needs completely.
And forget about asking for help - that's just not an option. You'll find a way to figure it out on your own; you always have.
And yet, you never feel like you're good enough.
YOU'RE TIRED OF FIGHTING YOURSELF
Because, let's face it: it's exhausting trying to be frigging perfect all. the. time.
You just want *so much* for your life and your relationships, but you're scared to make changes because you feel like you don't deserve it or haven't earned it yet.
So, you push down your feelings, until they become so big that they pop out like an angry, scary jack-in-the-box that you just can't seem to shove back in.
You've gotten really good at pretending you're ok...but deep down, you're just so tired of feeling angry and alone.
YOU ARE ENOUGH
I know - part of you isn't letting you quite believe that, yet. That's where I come in.
Imagine if you could feel confidence instead of shame...contentment instead of fear...relaxation instead of constant pressure...How different would your life be?
Spoiler alert: There's no such thing as perfect. But there is freedom.
THRIVE VS SURVIVE
You see, I understand that perfectionism is something you've acquired in service of emotional survival in your life. In other words: it has WORKED for you, and kept you feeling safe and in control.
But you were made for more than just survival. You were made to THRIVE, and it's my job to help you understand how to let go of all that extra baggage so that you can actually ENJOY your life.
I'll work closely with you to identify the "whys" behind your perfectionism and help you put one foot in front of another as you journey to emotional freedom.
Take the first step, and contact me today for your free consultation. I can't wait to meet you!
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